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14 Signs You’re Struggling With The Fear of Man in Your Life

Do you struggle with the fear of man?

Perhaps an illustration may help you discover your answer.

You’re driving to work.

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Your favorite song is playing on the radio. You turn the music up, drive a little faster, and put down your coffee. YOU’RE SINGING AT THE TOP OF YOUR LOUNGES. “I love this song,” you keep thinking. You’ve never felt more free and alive.

But that changes in a split second.

You look over to your left and someone notices you singing. So you stop everything, turn the music down, and go back to sipping your coffee. Even though you’ll never see them again, you feel embarrassed and exposed.

Has that ever happened to you?

It’s silly. But why do we feel embarrassed in these kind of moments?

The world calls it “Peer pressure, people-pleasing, or co-dependency.” The Bible, on the other hand, calls it fear of man.

Do you struggle with this? I know I do.

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To help you find signs of the fear of man in your life, here’s 14 questions from Ed Welch’s outstanding book, When People Are Big and God is Small: Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man. 

14 Questions About the Fear of Man

1. Have you ever struggled with peer pressure? “Peer pressure” is simply a euphemism for the fear of man.

2. Are you over-committed? Do you find it hard to say no when wisdom indicates that you should? You are a “people-pleaser,” another euphemism for the fear of man.

3. Do you “need” something from your spouse? Do you “need” your spouse to listen to you? Respect you? Unless you understand the biblical parameters of marital commitment, your spouse will become the one you fear. Your spouse will control you. Your spouse will quietly take the place of God in your life.

4. Is self-esteem a critical concern for you? This, at least in the United States, is the most popular way the fear of other people is expressed.

5. Do you ever feel as if you might be exposed as an impostor? The sense of being exposed is an expression of the fear of man.

6. Are you always second-guessing decisions because of what other people might think? Are you afraid of making mistakes that will make you look bad in other people’s eyes?

7. Do you feel empty or meaningless? Do you experience “love hunger?” If you need others to fill you, you are controlled by them.

8. Do you get easily embarrassed? If so, people and their perceived opinions probably define you.

9. Do you ever lie, especially the little white lies? What about cover-ups where you are not technically lying with your mouth? Lying and other forms of living in the dark are usually ways to make ourselves look better before people.

10. Are you jealous of other people? You are controlled by them and their possessions.

11. Do other people often make you angry or depressed? Are they making you crazy? If so, they are probably the controlling center of your life.

12. Do you avoid people? If so, even though you might not say that you need people, you are still controlled by them.

13. Aren’t most diets, even when they are ostensibly under the heading of “health,” dedicated to impressing others? The desire for the “praise of man” is one of the ways we exalt people over God.

14. Have all these descriptions missed the mark? When you compare yourself with other people, do you feel good about yourself? Perhaps the most dangerous form of the fear of man is the “successful fear of man.” Such people . . . have more than others. They feel good about themselves. But their lives are still defined by other people rather than God.

The Fear of Man Lays a Snare


Let me say that again: OUCH.

If you’re like me, you realized most of those applied to you.

What do you do?

Go back to the gospel.

As I’ve heard someone say, if you are “in Christ,” you still might have a lot of things to improve, but you never have anything to prove. God’s gospel frees you from the pressure of trying to measure up because Christ has already met God’s requirements on your behalf. The only One that you should fear is that One that has set you free.

“The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is safe” (Proverbs 29:25).

Fear of Man Video

Check out this video. It’s less than four minutes long. In the video, Ed Welch explains what the fear of man is, and why it’s so dangerous.

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